Fantasy in the bedroom is not always a bad thing. In fact, it can be a healthy way for people in long term relationships to keep their physical relationship revived. However, fantasy can also develop into an addiction that will become a devastating obsession. Addicts who are fixated on fantasy become obsessed with the fantasy at the expense of all other aspects of their lives. Like other sex addicts, those fixated on fantasy sex are unable to stop without professional help.
Fantasy sex addiction can be difficult to identify because everyone has a different fantasy. Also, the fantasy addict may also have other forms of addiction; such as to pornography and masturbation. The key to identifying this articular issue is obsession. Sex addicts with a fantasy addiction become obsessed with the fantasy. They spend all of their waking moments focused on the fantasy and use the fantasy as a gauge to measure their sexual activity against. While healthy people use fantasy as a way to enhance the pleasure of a healthy sexual relationship, these individual use the sexual relationship as a means of pursuing their fantasy.
When you think of fantasy, role playing comes to mind. In fact, role playing is a common form of fantasy for fantasy addicts. This may start out with suggestions for role playing to his or her partner. However, as the addiction progresses, it can become uncomfortable for partners if the roles or scenarios become more extreme. Sex addicts may pressure their partners or even force them to play roles they are uncomfortable with as the addiction spirals out of control.
Pornography is another way that fantasy sex addicts can live out their fantasies. The vicarious experience of viewing pornography can be enough for some individuals to satisfy their fantasies. The use of porn to fulfill a fantasy can cause an entangled combination of fantasy and porn addiction. Over time, the pornography viewing isn’t enough. They may move on to using phone sex lines or hiring prostitutes to fulfill their fantasies.
For other fantasy addicts, the fantasy may not center around role playing or pornography viewing. The fantasy may instead be focused on a certain sexual act, location or other circumstance. For example, some people have a fantasy about having sex in public. The fantasy may involve the thrill and risk involved with getting caught or it may be more focused on the thrill of the idea that others may be watching. Individual fantasies can be nearly anything, since people are all different.